Why is it sometimes so difficult to get over a relationship that has ended? Why do we attract similar relationship patterns into our lives? Often, we can see our patterns so clearly, but the awareness doesn’t always get us out of the rut. This is where work is required on the stuck patterns that are held in the Human Energy Field.
Yes, the ‘aura’ is not only some flaky new age magazine or something you can have photographed at festivals. It is the creative forcefield that shapes our very experience of life. It is essential that we become aware of what is held in our energy field and how it creates health or dis-ease in all aspects of our lives: physical, emotional, mental, relational and spiritual.
So, one aspect of this broad spectrum of work is Relationship Cord Healing. All suffering in relationships is based in painful unconscious attachments, which can actually be seen and felt as energetic cords that connect us with others. They do not need to be cut, since we live in a vibrantly alive pulsating web of interrelatedness with all beings. We are meant to be in connection, with all the joys and sorrows that brings. What needs to happen is a clearing of the unhealthy energies and attachments that contaminate our relationships. When a relationship cord is healed, it becomes transparent and we remain in energetic connection with that person to honour the learning that we have received in that relationship.
Unhealthy relationship cords take many different forms. They always manifest in our lives to help our soul blossom. Yes, even that very painful stuff is manure for this process. If we seek to ‘cut the ties that bind’ in order to escape our pain and make everything better, this will not work: the same pattern will manifest in another relationship until we get the learning from it. The universe has a wonderfully benevolent wisdom and intelligence.
So what are these unhealthy relationship cords? They exist on the Astral Body, which is an accumulation of unconscious material in our energy field that takes on a life of its own. There is also a collective Astral Body for the entire human race, which can be called the collective unconscious. So, relationship cords are like energetic pathways on the Astral Body. These pathways contain habitual codes of relating, which we learnt in childhood and then tend to repeat in adulthood, even when we are aware that they do not serve us any more. We tend to travel down the same pathways out of habit because there is a certain mesmerising pull to the unconscious material and the grooves of habit that form within it. When this unconscious material is released from the astral body, these grooves gradually disappear and we find other pathways for our soul streams to travel back to the harmonious flow of healthy relating.
Cleansing the Astral Body in this way is essential for healthy relationships. We can release unhealthy imprints from our conditioning in this lifetime and previous lifetimes. We can release the energetic contracts with people that do not serve us any more, then we can begin to attract relationships that reflect our essence.